Drunk mans words sober mans Thoughts?

I am in marriage counseling and its making things worse. I think because I have to re live the pain, My spouse drinks wine every night and almost nightly starts fights. He has told me I am not enough for him, he saw prostitutes, had eye on woman at work, said I am getting old, ugly, fat, etc. I have read even if he quits drinking this learned behavior will probably continue. Is a drunks words the truth? Personally for me it is.